Moving On

I just got out of an abusive relationship with my boyfriend. He was verbally and sexually abusive. I can make a list so long it will fill a book of all the things he has said to me, made me feel or has done to me. I just don't know what to make about this whole thing or how to move on. What should I do? I am hurting so much. I see him and I get so scared. I am afraid the effect this has had on my life.

- 23, Texas

No one should have to endure what you went through. Keep in mind that what happened was not your fault. He should have respected you. You didn't deserve that.

It's great that you found a way to end the relationship. It's not an easy thing to do and the difficulty can continue even after it's over. After all you've experienced, it's understandable why you feel that way that you do. What he did was wrong and very abusive. It may not seem this way now, but by ending the relationship and reaching out for help, you are already taking the first steps to moving on and healing. Sometimes asking for help can be just as difficult, if not more. Give yourself some credit for that.

What you're going through now is extremely hard, and it's even harder if you're doing it on your own. Share this experience with someone you trust. It's important to have lots of support to help you through it. Or consider talking to a counselor to help guide you along the way. It may be hard, but there is a way to get through it. Just remember that you don't have to do it alone.

Ending a relationship can sometimes be one of the most dangerous times for a victim. If you ever feel that you're in immediate danger, don't hesitate to call the police. Create a safety plan to help you stay safe. You may not feel it's necessary but it's always a good idea, especially when you've ended an abusive relationship. Remember, your safety and well-being are what matter most.

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